Responding to hate-mongers who want to ban gay marriage, the American Anthropological Association said this: "The results of a century of anthropological research on households and families, across cultures and through time, provide no support for the view that viable social orders depend on marriage as an exclusively heterosexual institution." In fact, the evidence suggests the opposite: "A vast array of family types, including families built on same-sex partnerships, can contribute to stable and humane societies." Make these thoughts your starting point, Gemini, as you re-imagine the kind of family you want to create for yourself in the future. There's no need to be loyal to any of the narrow dogmas your culture tries to foist on you about the right way to live together with people you love.
Yer preachin' to the choir, Rob. With that said, I'm not likely to settle down and live with the people I love any day soon. Probably at some point, but not for awhile yet.